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(gasp) (singsong) budget meeting! sweet. if you compare last quarter to this quarter... various: mmm. it's no wonder everything seems a little better with the creamy taste of philly, made with fresh milk and real cream. welcome to this "ac 360" special, "the howard stern interview." for much of his career in radio, howard stern has been known as a shock jock with wild on-air stunts that were sometimes criticized, often criticized, as vulgar, lewd, even offensive. he became incredibly popular with a devoted fan base which he
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still has, but stern says he is now a changed man. looking back on those days makes him at times want to cringe. he went through years of intensive psychotherapy and also moved off terrestrial radio and onto satellite radio joining siriusxm in 2006. there, he slowly began to reinvent himself, both on the radio and in his own life through therapy. there was less raunch and more thoughtful conversations. his long, in-depth interviews with celebrities like jerry seinfeld and lady gaga and conan o'brien gave him a reputation as really one of the best interviewers in the business and that's what he remains today. one of his most frequent guests over the years was donald trump who he didn't support in the 2016 campaign though candidate trump wanted him to. 11 of his conversations with trump, along with his other favorite interviews from over the years, are chronicled in stern's new best-selling book, "howard stern comes again." i sat down with howard for a fascinating discussion where we talked about the interviews he loves, his evolution through psychotherapy and the advice he now has for president trump.
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>> i got to be honest, i've been dreading this interview. >> why? >> because i've read every interview you've given for this book. i've read all the interviews that you have done that are in this book. and i feel like i don't know anything to talk to you about that you haven't already said a million times. >> if that's the problem -- >> paul mccarty -- then i realized, this is the agony you go through. >> why don't you sit back and i'll just take this time and talk. i can do a monologue. it's okay. >> i know you can. because i've read everything you've done, i know what you're going to say. >> later on insert your questions to what i say. that will work. >> we're not allowed to do that, unfortunately. >> well, we were talking -- you know, we sat down and said hello and everything and you actually kind of got me inspired because i was really worried about
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putting out a book of my interviews. it took me a long time to come to grips with like, oh, could i do that and would it be interesting. and so, you know, now that there's a compilation of people -- interesting people i've interviewed, you being one of them -- >> which i can't believe you put me in the book. >> i'm surprised you would think anything less. i thought -- >> i was blown away. >> well, as i said in the book, you know, you said a couple of things that really triggered me and a lot of these interviews -- and i talk about the fact that i'm in therapy now. and they kind of combine because after i spoke with you that day on the air, i remember specifically going into therapy and saying to my therapist, i just spoke to anderson cooper and, wow, it's triggered a whole bunch of things for me. some of the things you were saying about your mother and your life after the death of your brother, and i was asking you questions and in the most sincere way when i was interviewing you, i was actually trying to learn from you. >> you talk about therapy. and a lot of people do not talk
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about therapy. >> right. >> and you have been very affront -- you didn't just do therapy. you did -- >> psychotherapy. >> psycho analysis, sort of freudian at its height, four days a week, that's an intensive form of therapy. did therapy -- did it save your life? >> it did. it really -- it wasn't as if i was suicidal or something along those lines. but when i say it saved my life, it made me recognize, a, how appreciative i am of my life, it made me recognize all the good things that i have, and it also taught me how to be a man, how to -- by "man" i mean i have
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children, how to relate to my children, how to be more involved in a conversation with you. how to be appreciative of you for giving me that interview. >> you had said that you were a selfish jerk. >> selfish jerk. >> yes, all right. >> but i was also naive. it wasn't like i was intentionally going out to be a jerk. i don't think people, you know, would say i was a jerky guy. but what it was is, i had no notion of the world around me. i had not really had a relationship with my mother and father where i felt prepared in the world. and so when i went out, i was doing things. and i think a lot of my self-protection was closing down my emotion, closing myself off to the world. and that kept me very well protected as a child. and the only way you grow out of that -- >> which is trauma. >> trauma. >> that's the recollection to trauma is closing yourself down. >> and i was one of the most closed down people. and, you know, it took me years of therapy to realize that, hey, i can be a fan of anderson cooper. i can share the audience with you. i was like in sibling rivalry. there was no room for any other sibling. >> which is why you were very tough on robin williams, gilda radner, rosie o'donnell because in a weird way you were a fan of those people and that i never understood. you were a fan of them, but you had to bring them down. >> there was a whole bunch of things. first of all, i was on the radio, terrestrial radio. satellite radio freed me in a lot of ways.
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>> no ratings. in terrestrial radio, you've got quarters, half-hours -- >> i got to keep pulling you around. i got to make sure you're sucked into my world and there was really no room to be gracious to a guest. at least in my mind. i had to keep those ratings going. so when robin williams would come in or if you would come in in those days, i would have jackhammered you with ridiculous questions and the audience would have been cheering me on and going, hey, man, that's great. anderson cooper walked in and howard -- why don't you color your hair or whatever the hell stupid thing -- and you would say what am i doing here? it would just be silly. it's not that -- you know, when i came over to satellite and i was in psychotherapy and i describe in the book how i really enjoyed in psychotherapy being heard, especially by a man, and this relationship with this man listening to me kind of opened me up to, wait a second, why am i goofing on rosie o'donnell. i appreciate rosie o'donnell. >> so you wanted to create that
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atmosphere almost on the air where you were -- where somebody is being heard, where you were actually having a conversation. >> yes. if i enjoy that feeling of being heard, maybe my guests would be. and also it got philosophical for me. i kept seeing what was happening with social media and the art of conversation also dying. and what i mean by that is, everywhere you look now, everyone is sort of buried in their phone. we've become isolated. the art of conversation used to really be something. whether it was, you know, going back to the days of barbara walters or edward r. murrow -- >> it was an event. >> it was an event. when two people would sit down who maybe accomplished something in life and we learn there them, it would just be fascinating and interesting. and i feel like, you know, on a mass level, that's kind of disappeared.
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we don't all congregate and listen to interviews. and so i've -- i began to say to myself, you know, i really do want to get under the hood. i want to give that experience to my guests. >> but i think it's so interesting how you talk about childhood trauma, how the -- i never really realized until the last, you know, ten years of my life or so how much the stuff that happens in childhood, it never goes away. >> never. >> it's all -- everything is based on that. they said the first two years of your life as a kid are the most important because that's how things are formed. but sexuality, everything -- it all comes from childhood or it's all patterns we're playing over and over, and it seems in your case particularly true. >> and not only that, i knew as
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a father, if i'm playing the same patterns over, well, then i'm not doing a service to my children. i'm doing a great disservice if i'm not fully in the moment and i'm not really understanding what it is i'm trying to present as a father. >> the fact you didn't even realize you had gone into radio at least in part because your dad was in radio. >> no, i was angry when people would say that to me. i would say i didn't go into radio because of my father. of course i did. you know, my father was a radio engineer who eventually got into being a recording engineer and had a recording studio -- >> with three other people -- >> with four other people. and so, you know, my father would reverence -- he would see a guy behind a microphone, i saw my father, he'd treat them so nicely, what can i get you, and he's, you know, completely involved with them. well, for a boy who was looking for involvement with his father, i said to myself at an early age, what else would i be? >> but i heard you say -- which made me incredibly sad which was you saw your father looking at -- you saw your dad looking at him and you said to yourself, i wish my dad would look at me in the way that -- >> of course. i mean, that was my dream to
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have that kind of gentle, kind look would have been the world to me. if my father could have seen me in that light as an accomplished human being, it would have blown my mind, you know. >> the other thing which i didn't know much about your mom, but it comes out in the book and you've talked about it obviously on the radio is something i really related to. you know, your mom talked about killing herself when you were a kid. >> yeah. >> and my mom used to talk -- my mom would always say, when i -- when i become a burden, i'll just, you know -- i'll take my life. >> yeah. look, that's a heavy thing for a kid to hear. and my mother had a -- both of my parents had very difficult lives. and my mother was very depressed. when she was 9, she lost her mother. her father sent her away with her sister. her sister was one year older than her. >> they tried to get her into an orphanage and the orphanage was full.
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they sent her off to i think it was -- it was iowa or somewhere. and she went to live with these relatives who -- you can imagine. she had -- he would describe having one pair of underwear. she'd never had a toy. her mother died when she's 9. her mother goes into the hospital, no one told her that her mother went in the hospital and no one told her her mother died. back then, they didn't tell you. they didn't talk to children. she didn't know what happened. her mother was just gone. so you can imagine that kind of trauma and having a mother who's traumatized, you learn early on that i can't bring to my mother any problem or any feeling because i don't want to upset her. i want to keep her spirits up. it would be too much for her. you know, i describe my mother in the book as a fine piece of china. we don't want to break her. and, you know, my mother when i was in high school, she lost her
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sister. and her sister died at -- in her 40s. and that really sent her into a depression. and she didn't want to live. >> it's funny you say your mom was a fine piece of china. i used to think of my mom as like a space alien whose ship has landed here and she's stranded here and my job is to, like, protect her and sort of explain how things are on this planet. >> wow. that's interesting. all of this is just how do we -- especially as men, when we're little boys growing up, we need mothers. and, you know, i think before therapy, i saw my mother as the most powerful, strong woman who could handle anything, and then i realized when i was in therapy, no, my mother -- my mother had to be protected. and so what happened for me is that i learned to, like, kind of bury what was going on with me. i didn't have an easy time of it.
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predominantly african-american neighborhood. >> yeah. there were -- i remember maybe three or four white kids and all of my friends would move away in the middle of the night. the families didn't want it to be known they were moving away. and it was a tough neighborhood. there was a lot of fighting and -- you had a fight. and i never would bring this to my parents. i would never bring it to my mother. i just had to deal with it. and i wanted her to be proud of me. >> it makes me think -- the whole thing interesting about trauma is that it makes me think of all the people who -- it makes me so much more empathetic to other people because there's all these people who have all had trauma, who have not been able to afford psychotherapy or any form of therapy who have not addressed any of this. >> that's what's disturbing and i sometimes sit there in therapy and go thank goodness i could afford this wonderful doctor who has spent his life really making sure that he's a good psychotherapist.
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he puts his narcissism aside. you know, i was sitting in the psychotherapist's office and i said to him, you know, the reason for this book is really you. he goes, now you're going to give me the book. it's not you, it's me. i interviewed those people. he goes, no. i said, well, i want to dedicate the book to you. he goes, why would you do that? so here was a man showing me that he could put aside his own narcissism, sure, you know, it would have been very flattering, but it would have been counterproductive to the therapy i was getting. what he's saying to me is, i'm genuinely interested in you. you don't have to bribe me. you don't have to reward me with gifts. you don't have to give me a christmas card. >> was that a test? >> on my part? sure. yeah. >> i do those tests. >> me too. >> you talk trauma and you talked about it in relationship to president trump. >> yeah. >> that donald trump is a person who experienced a lot of trauma early on.
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early on. >> from what i know of donald and his relationship with his father, it sounds traumatic. it sounds like the father was very domineering, the father expected a lot of him and the father -- i don't know, there was military school. you read these drips and drabs and you go, wow, i can assure you he's been traumatized. because, you know, donald, his level of narcissism is so strong. he has trouble with empathy, we know that. i wish he'd go into psychotherapy. i'd be so proud of him if he did. he would probably flourish. >> he never has. he never would. >> there is no way. i do not believe he's ever done psychotherapy, because he's demonstrating a lot of the -- a lot of the behaviors that i recognize. >> tony schwartz who was the ghost writer on "the art of the deal" has said he thinks he's a sociopath. >> i don't know. i'm not a psychiatrist. and i devote -- getting back to the art of conversation, i could have called this book howard stern, the interviews, donald is a prominent player in these
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interviews over the years, and they're fascinating. i think the stellar piece in the book is when you read this back and forth with me being the wrestler -- the referee to their wrestling match -- >> with a.j. benza. >> a.j. benza who was a columnist for the daily news gossip columnist and donald trump and they're fighting over a woman. and a.j. is basically saying i was in love with this woman, donald, why did you have to take her away from me. he goes, i took her away from you and i was better in bed than you. let's get her on the phone and we'll compare. and she was way more in love with me and a.j. goes you're a sociopath. you would send her articles where it said you were a billionaire and circled the word "billionaire." and this is going on on the radio, i'm orchestrating this conversation that is unbelievable. it's some of the best radio you'll ever read or hear -- >> i found it painful to read. >> you found it painful because he's our president. is that why? >> just painful as -- that he was taking pleasure in this -- you know, i don't know who a.j.
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benza is. he was on your radio. i hope he's doing well but, you know, it's not necessarily an even fight and he's -- it's the argument of a 15-year-old. >> it's a 15-year-old argument and he's picking the wings off a fly. >> yeah. >> and so -- >> as an interviewer, i've noticed this, when i used to interview, i don't get to interview him anymore because he doesn't do it, but he was very susceptible to flattery. and if you gave -- and i noticed this in your interviews with him, you would throw out something like your poll numbers, never seen anything like this -- >> well, it's a definite technique. >> it washes over him. >> yes, it's a technique. you know, it's like if you meet someone who has a bad -- oh, you're very beautiful. you're so handsome. you're this, you're that. with donald it always starts out -- notice i call him in every interview, mr. trump. this was before he was president. mr. trump. >> that's intentional. >> absolutely. someone had asked me, why do you
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call him mr. trump? i said because it loosens him up. he feels respected, he feels good about himself. now he's going to roll. he's going to open up to me. >> when you see him now in the white house as president, what do you see? >> well, you know -- >> given how you -- your history with him and how you know him. >> first of all, it's unbelievable to me, and i documented my thoughts about how this whole candidacy came about. this was a publicity stunt. i happened -- >> you have no doubt about that. >> i have no doubt because i have some inside information. and the thing is, it started out with "the art of the deal", the book, and it was, you know, a pr guy's idea. he said, donald, what you need to do is we'll make a -- sort of a rumor that you're running for president. and donald is like, oh. all of a sudden he was being interviewed, the book goes right to number one. when he had his second book that came out, that's when he decided to start the rumor that he was going to run for president and then this time around, in the
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last election, "the apprentice" ratings were not what they were. nbc was not going to give him a raise. and what's a better way than to get nbc's interest, i'll run for president and i'll get lots of press. and i think that's what happened. >> do you think he likes being president? >> i don't think he likes being president at all. i think he liked winning the presidency. he likes to win. and, again, i'm not donald trump's psychotherapist and i had many good laughs with donald. and in some ways i feel it has been wrong the way they use my transcripts in a way to frame him. and i'll give you an example. when he said the line about stds being his vietnam -- >> vietnam, sort of like -- >> that was a very jokey thing on my show. if you went back to listen to the tape, you would not take that seriously. he was in the spirit of the program. and then he was -- you know, they tried to use that again, how dare he compare himself to a veteran of the vietnam war who served when he didn't serve. all right. everybody, take a deep breath
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and relax. but having said that, the stuff i put in the book i think is very revealing about our now president and there's something to be learned there. >> when -- do you think he's the same person that you interviewed now? >> yeah, i do. i think he's the same exact person. i think the only way you really change is through analysis. so i think he's the same guy. >> you haven't talked to him since you turned him -- he asked you to speak at the rnc, i had no idea about that. >> yeah, he used to call me from the campaign trail and i think he was really desirous of my endorsement because, a, i have a big audience, and b, he's familiar with that audience and i think it would have been very comforting to him if i had gotten on board. so when the -- when he secured the nomination and now he was thinking about the convention, i think he wanted some show biz there, he picked up the phone and he called me personally and he asked me if i would go to the republican convention and endorse him.
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and i was like, oh, gosh, you know, for about a splint second, i'm going, can you imagine if i was all in? i would be the head of the fcc. i could be the supreme court -- i could be on the supreme court. i think donald would give me anything i'd ask. >> you really believe that. >> i believe it 100%. if ben carson can get in there and -- i think donald would have appointed me to something. >> because he's transactional or -- >> i think he would have been grateful that i'm on his team regardless of whether i know what i'm doing or not. >> what would you have wanted to be? >> well, i guess -- the only thing i really wanted was, i wanted him to take me to camp david because i -- you know, my father and i used to joke about this, that if the american public got a good look at camp david, there would be a revolution in this country. that presidents should not be treated like kings and shouldn't have retreats. they should be in the oval office working. what is this camp david and what's going on over there and who the hell is paying the bills? >> you think camp david is very luxurious? >> yes, i do. have you been to camp david? >> i've never been there. >> i know there's a golf course. do you have a golf course at
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your house? >> i don't play golf. >> we cannot treat our presidents like king. i always say the greatest president was george washington, because they said, you want to be king? he goes, are you jackasses? we just fought a whole war over this. you're going to make me the king? what a guy. >> do you think trump wants to be king? >> i think trump would love to be king. and then it might be fun. off with their head. but -- >> you think he has those tendencies? >> of course he does. we all know donald. he would love to rule the land with an iron fist, sure, absolutely. >> do you think he wants to get re-elected? >> i don't think -- i think psychologically if he really got under the hood, i think he'd say, what am i doing? i'm in my 70s. (kickstart my heart by motley crue))
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if you could interview him now, because you haven't spoken to him since you turned down the rnc. >> no. well, when i turned down the rnc was the last time we've spoken. he said to me, what are you doing? and i explained to him in the nicest way that it would be difficult for me. i said i'm not really actually comfortable being a public speaker, which i'm not. i don't like going up. i never was a standup comic. i don't like getting up in front
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of audiences. this radio studio suits me just fine. i'm alone with robin and she's my audience. i'm in heaven. it's great. so when -- you know, what struck me as even odd, i know he was a hillary clinton fan. he was a supporter of hers. so the whole thing was weird. and i am -- i have been a hillary clinton supporter way back before even obama. yeah, i think she's a terrific public servant. i thought her husband was the best president we ever had. >> you tried to get her repeatedly to come on your show. >> i did everything that i normally don't do including going to the "new york times" and the "washington post" and doing an interview with them, excuse me, and supplying them with my whole game plan with hillary. and the whole game plan was, i wanted to humanize her to my audience. >> you weren't interested in talking about politics or policies. you were interested in her childhood -- >> her childhood, what drives her. i wanted to humanize her in the
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same way -- because a couple of people in my book where i interviewed them and the audience's perception changed just from one interview. >> it's interesting that hillary clinton -- i mean, she must have given your campaign, to get her on and you're giving away your strategy, she must have known that was the idea. it's interesting that she did not see that as a benefit. it says something about her as a candidate. >> it does. and i say this -- and i'm glad we're talking about it because whoever becomes the democratic nominee or even if you're fighting for the nomination, i applaud those people who go over to fox news like mayor pete who said, you know what, i want to win this thing. and he got a standing ovation over at fox news. impressive. and that was my point to hillary. i knew donald trump from being on the air with him for so many years and he provided some of the greatest radio. i knew he was a good communicator. and what do i mean by good communicator? talked like a dude. he just knew how -- he knew the
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audience. he knew how to play to them, and they liked him. they liked him. >> he is, you know -- he has -- he has a real charm -- when he wants to be -- >> he has an absolute charm. he's very charming, you know. and so when i saw this and i was a hillary supporter. i did go on this campaign. and i document it in the book and i detail it, i think it makes for interesting reading. but at the end of the day i never did hear from hillary's campaign. >> who in the democratic field would you want to interview now? >> i don't know. you know, i don't do a lot of political interviews. i'm kind of fatigued from it. i'm talking about it for my radio show. >> i assume you were democratic candidates now, it would be more about their background, where they're coming -- i'm just -- do you find any of them, the current crop, a, do you find any of them kind of interesting in their life story and, b, do you think any of them can actually beat donald trump? >> yeah, again, what i do is -- when i interview people, i have a -- i generally have an interest in them.
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i am curious about mayor pete because, number one, an openly gay candidate to me, i salute him. it's not going to be easy. there's still so much of our country that is homophobic and, you know, we can sit here in new york and say, hey, right on, but he's going to catch a lot of hell. and i admire his service to the country. i also find him when he speaks incredibly intelligent and knows how to talk -- >> you'd like to interview him? >> i'd be curious about his life. i really would be. and the adversity. but biden would be just as sort of interesting to me in a way. you know, i kind of find all people interesting and i -- >> you've never interviewed biden. >> no, i've never interviewed biden. there's something interesting in everyone. ♪ ♪ applebee's handcrafted burgers
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>> that makes me sad. >> yeah. >> this is your mother and you had to find some device to communicate with her. >> part of it was scheduling, but, yes. >> you know, looking her in the eye -- are you able to -- >> i'm a wasp. i keep everything pushed down deep inside. >> would you be able to look your mother in the eye and really tell her about your pain in life and -- >> i have, yeah. >> you have? >> yeah. >> how did that go? >> you know, it took a while. it was hard to do, but, yeah. and it was essential actually. >> was she able to hear it? >> oh, yeah. no, my mom is the most empathetic, you know -- she's thought -- >> she didn't try to make it all better? in other words, she didn't say to you -- >> no. >> -- oh, anderson, your life is not that bad. i had it rough? >> no. but she -- i'll tell you honestly, when we were doing this book, at one point she was
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like, i don't want to do this email anymore. i'm tired. i'm 92. how about i just talk to you on the phone and you type it all out. i'm like, i got three jobs. i'll give it a try. we do it for a day and at the end of the day she says to me, you know, i love talking to you especially when it's about me. and i was like, mom, that is the truest thing you've ever said to me. >> it's good that she could say it to you. >> yes. >> you know, it's so interesting this dynamic between mothers and sons and fathers and sons. it is -- as you were saying earlier, that is sort of the backbone of this book. and, hey, talk about growth in therapy, i was able to write a book about other people. i couldn't have done that earlier in my career. this book is really celebrating other people. but in a sense, it's also the most revealing book about me because of the questions that i ask. you start to realize who maybe i am. >> i also think it's a letter to your daughters.
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i mean -- >> it is. >> -- i'm being presumptuous in assuming this, but i viewed it as a letter to your daughters and to your -- to their kids if and when they have kids or if they already have kids, i don't know. but -- my dad wrote a book about his family and my family and i read it two times a year because it's the only thing i know of my dad and, you know, generations of sterns from now on can look back and read this. >> you're 100% right. you don't know how deep that goes, you know. >> and hear your voice which is incredibly important. >> i honestly -- i mean, when i was writing the book, i always had my daughters in mind and the vision i had was that i was going to hand them this volume and tell them, geez, i hope when you look back on your father's life, you look at this and you have something to be proud of. and i really had them in mind when i wrote it. it was me talking to them and saying, look, you know, i know i
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was a workaholic and i was very devoted to my career, but look at the good that came out of this, look at these interviews and look at what i've collected. and i thought in a way it was -- it was revealing myself to them in the way i'd like to be seen by them. and at the end of the day, my first two books caused them a lot of pain. they were too revealing. it was too raw. it was also me trying to just kind of be this outrageous maniac. it was too forced and it was -- i don't know what i was going for there. but this book i hold up as, like, this is who i am. >> my -- i told you my dad wrote a book. he did some radio interviews in public radio in 1976. they restored it, put it online and sent me an email and said, you know, you can listen to this. and i clicked on it in my office and it was the first time i had heard my dad's voice since i was 10 years old. >> wow. >> i couldn't remember what he sounded like. so i was thinking about this not
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only -- for your daughters and your grandkids and great grandkids, ultimately, to be able to hear your voice on the radio, that's -- that's an extraordinary thing. >> yeah, it really is extraordinary. and i don't know that i allowed that to sink in. but with the book, i did. there's something about -- first of all, i love the look, the feel of the book. i like the picture on the front. i feel there's something genuine about it. and ultimately when i open that book up on every page, i go, wow, this was -- this was an accomplishment. this was something good. so there was a time in my life i couldn't appreciate what they were telling me. i couldn't even stop and enjoy them. all my insecurities, oh, my god, what am i going to do to top this. and i sat back and i had just been dealing with this in therapy yesterday. therapist said to me, why can't you enjoy the fact that you were on stephen colbert and he gave you the whole hour? i hadn't stopped to reflect that
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something good had just happened to me -- >> i can't enjoy at all. how do you get to the place where you can enjoy it? >> well, you know, i think i just had to sit back and say, some good things are happening to me. and, you know, why you can't enjoy it? because it would make you vulnerable. and that struck me as a profound thing. >> it makes you vulnerable, because if it goes bad -- >> no. if it goes good it makes you more vulnerable. you feel love in your life. you feel like, oh, wow, somebody was good to me. i owe something to somebody. >> but i'm a catastrophist. if i believe -- if i say to myself things are going good -- >> then something bad will happen. >> -- something bad is going to happen. and if i don't take enjoyment in things, then i also won't feel pain in things. >> that's the story of the jewish religion. you would sit there and hang things and pray to god that nothing -- that something bad happened, and when something good would happen, you would pray to god, don't even look at it. because something bad is now going to happen. so this is what we're playing
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out. >> right. >> you're really jewish, you don't know it. >> i wanted to be. i begged my mom for a bar mitzvah. i went to so many bar mitzvahs -- >> there you go. so, you know, this -- all this stuff, even opening yourself up as an interviewer, it opens you up to a vulnerability, you know. yesss, i'm doing it all. the water. the exercise. the fiber. month after month, and i still have belly pain and recurring constipation. so i asked my doctor what else i could do, and i said yesss to linzess. linzess treats adults with ibs with constipation or chronic constipation. linzess is not a laxative, it works differently. it helps relieve belly pain and lets you have more frequent and complete bowel movements. do not give linzess to children less than 6, and it should not be given to children 6 to less than 18, it may harm them. do not take linzess if you have a bowel blockage. get immediate help if you develop unusual or severe stomach pain,
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are you worried about the country? >> oh, yes, yeah. i have three daughters. i am worried about the country. this notion, particularly, about immigration, i'm a guy who, you know -- both sets of grandparents came over and they
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were fleeing horrible situations. if they had had to take a test, one of my grandfather's never learned how to speak english. he couldn't master the language. he came here too late in life. this is the greatest country in the world. i thank god for this country and the opportunity. listen, where else could i have had my kind of career? >> there would be no howard stern if -- >> there would be no howard stern. and the point is, with your country, that statue of liberty, i took that for real. gives your tired, you're poor. we're not going to get the intelligentsia, necessarily. we are a country of immigrants poor immigrants who came over here and got a chance. and to cavalierly say, we're closing those doors down. we're going to give you a test, and if you pass that test, then maybe we'll let you in. boy, that's a pretty heavy statement. and i know, listen, not everyone has been lucky economically. it's easy to blame a poor immigrant coming over. that's what they did when my grandparents came. it's the same old.
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>> what was wrong with catholics and jews. >> with everything. italians came and they were the enemy. the chinese came over and they were the enemy. we have a lot of stuff that went on in our country. i hate when people talk about black people, poor blacks do not deserve some kind of shot through equal opportunity. or something like that. well, how many whities are sitting there and getting a shot at college or getting a shot at better education because they have so much more an there hasn't been this inherent racism. it seems like sometimes we have to right the wrong. i'm not some ultraliberal. i'm really not. i voted republicans and >> pataki. >> i voted for pataki. i voted for giuliani. i voted for republicans and are friends with many republicans. there used to be a civility between republicans and democrats. it seems like war now.
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i don't know what's going on now. >> do you think that's just the president? or it's more. >> you can't just blame donald trump. there's a lot of seething anger. i'm concerned about the supreme court. the idea that we're discussing roe v. wade. i would say to people listen, you don't want to have abortions. my wife is against abortion, but she's not against your right to have one. she wouldn't get an abortion but she wouldn't close down that opportunity for anyone else. the people who are alive now we have to worry about. >> do we need more unwanted children on the planet? and the same people are screaming about abortions i don't see them adopting anyone necessarily. i don't know how they'll take care of the unwanted children in these horrible situations and mothers who commit suicide because they weren't ready to have a kid. stop and take a breath. and to see a more harsh ruling come out on the supreme court, it would be a disaster. we both remember the days of
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women with coat hangers and going in back alleys. that stuff's not made up. and who was getting abortions during those days? the rich. so this would only affect the poor. and so, you know, look, there's got to be some compassion here. i also don't like our foreign policy and where it's going, you know. again, i ran as a dangerous situation. north korea is a dangerous situation. i see us pulling away from our allies and nato. it's all very disturbing to me. . where did you learn that? the internet... yeah? mmm! with no artificial preservatives or added nitrates or nitrites, it's all for the love of hot dogs. thatthere you are, mom!here. that's you? that does kinda look like our family. what are you wearing? ancestry has over 400,000 yearbooks from all across the country. start searching for your friends and family, free, at
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it seems like you're almost content. to mecon tent is a big word. happy seems like. >> happier. i'm still in therapy. i'm learning to stop and smell the roses. >> moments of contentment. >> i do. i describe in the book i have taken up painting. i get tremendous pleasure from that. i've learned to enjoy some little things that go on every day. yeah, i'm happier. i still got a lot of work to do on myself.
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and someone said the other day i was reading the book, and i'll go back into psychotherapy. that was one of the big pushes in writing the book. i wanted to say hey, especially some of the guys in my audience who say that's all nonsense. i wanted to say it really had an impact on my life. i wanted to be very genuine about it. >> most people do not change. after a certain age. you have changed. >> i have. it's possible for anybody to do it. really what are we looking for? to have better relationships with people. and be more content with our lives. i don't know. what do i know, anderson? you understand. i wish my name was anderson. can you imagine if i was an anderson? it wouldn't fit this face. you got look like you to be an anderson. >> i don't know what that means. it's popular in brazil. >> is it really? >> i don't know why. >> howard is on the list of popular names. it actually just broke into -- it's 999. my mother wanted to name me
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harvey. which would have made my life more difficult. >> that would have been ashonda. >> my mother was not good at picking names. my sisters name is ellen. she wanted to name her fern. she would have been fern stern. she says fern is a beautiful name. my father stepped in and said are you crazy? that can't be. so, i'm not harvey i'm howard. and i'm thankful for that at least. >> fern stern. >> i would have gotten beaten up 20 times more. >> thank you very much. >> all right, thanks. >> appreciate it. >> good seeing you. >> hope you interviewed this interview with howard stern. his best-selling look is out now. thanks for watching. dorian is now a category 4 hurricane as it powers towards the bahamas and florida. we have the latest on the storm's path. and protesters coming together right now in hong kong, this de