i feel like anyof us who eve lost someone, it's interesting how they come back into your life, whether you see someone who looks like them, smell a scent that reminds you of them, taste some food -- the way that the people who have passed can reenter our lives in a moment is very intriguing. so i think she does love him and then ed harris is playing the part, and he's sort of irresistible. >> charlie: yes, he is. so it made perfect sense to fall in love. >> charlie: should she have told him in the beginning? >> yeah, that's -- it's possible she should have. i think it's one of those things where it's just like we are in real life. sometimes we don't always do the thing that makes the most sense. i mean, our job as moviemakers is to convince you that that was right, at least that was true for her. and i did understand why, because she needed to preserve the fantasy, in a way -- i guess that's a way of explaining it, although i don't think that's what was in her mind. >> charlie: but also, she didn't want him to think that it was about her husband. >> that's right. >> charlie: that it re